Learning to love myself as God does is so important to me, but it was not an easy journey to go through. It’s in realizing that I have to renew my mind regularly on His truths that I began to see myself as God does.
Before becoming a Christian God was already calling me to respond to Him and seek salvation. He also called me to document every thought, response, emotion, and action daily in a journal I kept always on hand. Accepting this mode as our main way of communicating, both pre-salvation and post, helped me to learn a lot about myself as well as God’s perception of me. Along with my journey with Christ, I have come to look at myself as someone God could love, not because of a song I learned and recited in Sunday school as a child but because I intentionally sought my identity in Him and chose to believe Him through His word.
He showed me:
- His love is unconditional. There’s absolutely nothing that WE can do that will change this aspect of His character and will. He loves us regardless of what we’ve done, is doing, or will do. He is unshakable because “God is not man, that He should lie, or a son of man, that He should change His mind. Has He said, and will He not do it? Or has He spoken, and will He not fulfill it?” (Numbers 23:19).
- I am a sinner, and while that will separate me from Him it will not take me from His hand once I accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior. “I give them eternal life, and they will never perish, and no one will snatch them out of my hand. My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all, and no one is able to snatch them out of the Father’s hand. I and the Father are one” (John 10:28-30).
- That since I am a priority to Him I needed to make Him a priority to me. God initiated a relationship with us, first with Adam and Eve and then with the sacrifice of His son, Jesus. He wants us (He doesn’t need us) to both have a relationship with Him and to enjoy a God-filled life that “surpasses our understanding” (Philippians 4:17).
Loving yourself as God does is achieved by:
- Reading what He says about and does towards you, and believing what you read and experience.
His word is a love letter to His people and those He has called to be part of His family. It’s never easy to believe God – who the world says isn’t real or is something else derogatory – or have a relationship with Him, but we were not meant to fit a mold that wasn’t Jesus’.
- Allowing yourself to trust God with your past, your scars, your brokenness and for Him to “bring good news to the poor [or poor in spirit] … to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty [freedom] to the captives, and the opening of the prison to those who are bound” (Isaiah 61:1).
Loving yourself as God does means that you see yourself as a person Christ died on the cross for. You are not beholden to the labels and stigma’s the world, your family, or your ‘friends’ have placed on you. If I went around and embodied every label and assumption that was placed on me I would have tags like:
- she must be a lesbian because she’s never been with a man
- she must want to be a man because she doesn’t dress feminine enough plus she shaved her hair off
- she’s lazy because she claims her mental illness prevents her from getting a job
- she’s judgemental and prideful because she doesn’t want to associate with us
We are not who we were told we were. God has given me my identity through the blood of His son. I am loved, cherished, protected, made whole, never wanting, provided for, taught, and adored by the King of all Kings and Lord of all Lords, by the Alpha and Omega, and the Father of Time. I am His and He is mine.
I pray that you begin to love yourself as God does and that you seek his mirror when you want to look at yourself and measure your qualities and compare.
Happy Valentine’s day y’all <3!